a) whenever they are dirty.
b) twice a year.
d) when my husband tells me too.
please, please, ,please leave me a comment and let me know. so i guess i might be turning a bit more lavish than i thought. matt is hoping to hire someone to "help" me clean. ;) love that. "help" me. :) cause i am ~not~ keeping up. i asked him, what would be the priorities and he said floors and windows for now. so than i asked him how often he would like me to clean the windows and he said whenever they are dirty. what? yep. i counted 39 windows in my house, and i think just about everyone of them has bird crap on a section of it as i speak, and if not bird crap, then tiny hand prints.
i wash my windows twice a year. spring and fall. maybe an exception here and there, but i thought i was doing good.
i went out on a limb and let my words tumble out of my mouth, and went ahead and said that none of our friends wash their windows whenever they are dirty. somehow that makes me feel better...if our friends don't always have clean windows, then maybe it's okay if mine aren't clean either? i know. it's twisted thinking...
so, now i am wondering. i have mom after mom, of high school grads, lately, come up to me and tell me to spend time with my kids. life is too short, they will be gone before i know it. i have grasped this. I know it. i know i am not promised tomorrow with anyone in my life. so...we have been to the pool twice so far. when i left my house with finger printed windows and not folded laundry, perhaps the sink was even loaded with dishes...i don't remember.
so what do you do, when your husband doesn't have that same perspective?
hire a cleaning lady?
or do i stop taking the time out of my day to do some fun stuff with the kids, and in reality fun stuff for me, and please my man? i really do think it is my calling as a wife to please him. i do. and i think i try really hard sometimes.
but the other reality is that summer ~especially~ is my favorite time of year. being tan in the summer is a must for me, ~especially~ when i happen to be pregnant with my 5th child, so leaving the house on a whim to go catch some sun, or grabbing a glass of homemade mint tea and soaking my feet in the kiddie pool while the kids splash around me, and i put my nose in a book, seems like it's going to happen, regardless of whether my "chores" are done.
this is nothing new that i am torn with. i know my husband really well. and i know that i can never have my house clean enough. it just "pops" into our discussion every now and again, and i can't help but feel defeated, like i am not doing "my job" up to par, to get someone to help me with my cleaning. hence that is why i drop the ball about calling someone to help me. i feel guilty about that.
feel free to drop me your thoughts. would love to hear how you manage your own households.
p.s. to be fair, you should also know that i am leaving for the beach with a friend early wed. morning, and returning late thur. night. lavish. ummm. maybe? :) however, i also have childcare arranged, meal schedule printed, and notes to all the babysitters already written. the list today includes washing my 39 windows.
have a great, great week!